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For When You're Feeling Shame

Updated: Jul 2

Here are some gentle messages for days when shame is really big and really loud:

  • First and foremost, I see you. You're awesome. I know how hard days like this can be.

  • Some days shame is so loud and intense. Remember that you are worthy and lovable, especially on days when shame triggers are so big.

  • Our inner critic can become incredibly loud when we are feeling vulnerable or wounded. It's one way we try to control what we are feeling, perhaps there is a way to care for yourself when you're feeling tender, like 10 minutes of stretching or reaching out to a friend.

  • Shame often wants to isolate us, because we don't want to get hurt again or risk making our pain worse. Still, we often need connection to move through our shame. Is there someone you could reach out to and connect with?

  • Sometimes shame can feel like who we are. I am shame and shame is me. I'm here to tell you that isn't true. You are so much bigger than the shame you're feeling today.

  • Shame is often rooted in what we didn't hear, so let me offer you some of what might be missing: I'm so glad you're here. It is such a pleasure to know you. You matter. Your feelings are welcome here. You are lovable.

  • What affirmations would you add? Please share your affirmations in the comments!

The shadow of a person peeking around a corner.

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Thank you so much, I have carried my mothers shame all my life and it’s been heavy until a therapist gave me a reality check and helped me to realise it was not my shame to carry x




Thank u for this! ❤️

Sara Aird
Sara Aird

You’re welcome 💛💛💛

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