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Sara Aird | Survivor Wise Resources
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Reconciling the ruptured self mentorship
"For most of my life, my mind felt like a battlefield. On the battlefield were dozens of competing and conflicting voices. Each voice represented different fears, goals, and agendas, each one with different coping strategies and defenses. I felt pulled in all directions, and no matter what I did, no matter which voice I followed, I rarely felt successful or at peace, because some part of me was disappointed or abandoned. This internal war forged a deep well of shame, self-hatred, and hopelessness, which only made the war rage on. I felt fractured, broken, and exhausted. Constantly at odds with myself. Always in pieces. Never whole."
Sara - Mentor for the Reconciling the Ruptured Self Mentorship
This recovery mentorship will focus on the basics of Parts Work, a compassionate framework that helps complex PTSD survivors navigate their conflicted and fragmented selves by externalizing parts, identifying their needs, and creating inner resources to meet those needs. The goal of this program is to help you become aware and more familiar with your inner world and the conflicts that show up there while offering you some solid skills for navigating and meeting the needs of different parts.
What is parts work?
Parts Work is the framework we use to heal our inner conflicts. Inner conflicts can look like unwanted trauma responses, procrastination, shame, fear of intimacy or connection, and more. Within the conflicts, we find parts of ourselves that are at odds with each other over how to handle the issue. Each part is playing a role within our inner psyche, like characters in a play. Some parts play a protective role. Some parts hold pain. Some parts manage day to day tasks. As we come to know our parts and their needs, we build the capacity to be the director - to navigate and guide our different parts, teaching them to work together. Through a parts work framework, we can develop self-trust and compassion, as well as choice and empowerment.
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Learn about the inner war, fragmentation, and how Parts Work will help you address inner conflicts.
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Utilize both art and writing to make a mind-body connection between yourself and your parts.
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Create an "Anchors to Self" toolbox to use while working with parts.
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Identify and name protectors and wounded parts: fight, flight, freeze, fawn.
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Learn how to separate or "unblend" from parts as you work with them.
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Identify and name healing inner allies: observing, curious, compassion, and caregiving parts.
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Learn how to dialogue with protective and wounded parts, bringing understanding to their experience and attention to their needs.
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Practice conversations at the inner table with your trauma-related parts and their healing allies.
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This program consists of six sections:
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Understanding the Inner Battlefield
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The Basics of Parts Work
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Identifying Inner Protectors and Managers
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Identifying Wounded Parts
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Growing Inner Healer and Allies
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Navigating the Inner Table
What is covered in the reconciling the ruptured self program?
the program schedule
Reconciling the Ruptured Self Week by Week
Introduction to Reconciling the Ruptured Self
Week 1: Getting Oriented
Understanding the Inner Battlefield
Week 2: The Inner War and Shame
How Shame Is Internalized
Week 3: The Inner War and Our Nervous System
Trauma Responses
Dissociation as a chronic freeze response
The Basics of Parts Work
Week 4: Understanding the Framework
Cultivating Curiosity and Compassion
Anchors to Self Toolbox
Identifying Inner Protectors and Managers
Week 5: Naming and Externalizing Protectors and Managers
Why Naming is Important
Differentiating from Inner Protectors and Managers
Week 6: Understanding the Motives of Your Inner Protectors and Managers
Becoming an Observer
Seeking to Understand Instead of Judge
Week 7: Cultivating Rest Practices
Identifying Wounded Parts
Week 8: Understanding Triggers and Externalizing Your Wounded Parts
Exploring the Idea of an Inner Child
Week 9: Understanding the Needs of your Your Wounded Parts
Crisis Care and Long Term Care Plans
Introduction to Grief Work
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Growing Inner Healers and Allies
Week 10: Identifying the Inner Resources You Need to Heal
Qualities of Your Inner Healers
Week 11: Creating and Growing Inner Healer and Ally Parts
What tools do your Inner Healers and Allies bring to the table?
Navigating the Inner Table
Week 12: Envisioning Your Inner Table and Introduction to Parts Dialogue
Creating a Safe Listening Space
Week 13: Practice at the Inner Table
Exploring Parts Dialogue More Deeply
Week 14: What are my next steps?
what type of support do I receive through mentorship?
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14 Weeks of online learning modules on complex trauma recovery topics
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A program workbook designed for self-discovery and reflection
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Weekly exercises to help you build a recovery toolbox
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Weekly one hour Zoom mentoring calls with Sara
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Weekly meeting reflection notes and healing tools to consider
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Support throughout the week via instant messaging
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3 support group Zoom calls with other mentees in the program
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Access to previously completed mentorship learning modules
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Priority access to Survivor Circle workshops held outside of mentorship
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